Ladders

Confession: Last week I skipped Sunday School.

Instead, I talked to this guy named Cameron Copeland.

Cameron has this theory about dating called the Ladder.

The boys ladder is a basic, up and down ladder. When a girl gets on, she starts as an acquaintance, and then moves up and down the ladder depending on how the guy is feeling about her. She is evaluated daily and can move up or down depending on how the guy is feeling about her that day. If she reaches the top, they are dating/relationship. Sometimes a girl can make it to the top, and then fall off the ladder completely. Sometimes she'll reach the top and then move back down. 

The girl's ladder is a bit more complicated. It starts the same, with acquaintance on the bottom and the guy moves up and down. But, Then the ladder splits into two - one side is the Friend Ladder, and the other is the Lover Ladder. Sometime a girl can keep a guy on the main Acquaintance Ladder for a long time, even years, while she trys to decide which ladder he will be placed at. Once a guy is placed, there is rarely ever a chance to change. The girl gets to choose, and the guy has no idea where he is placed, at least not at first.

Sometimes after a guy realizes he is on the Friend Ladder, he will try to make "the leap." This means he trys to jump from the Friend Ladder to the Lover Ladder. There are three places the guy can end up. The first is on the Lover Ladder, but these are very rare. The second is back on the Friend Ladder, only lower than before and it is difficult to reach your previous height again. The third place to land is The Pit, or the black hole that sucks you in and you can never be friends again because it is so awkward.

I found this Ladder theory, at least in my experience, to be pretty accurate. 

This, of course, lead us to the never ending question: can guys and girls be friends? 

My current conclusion: Yes, they can be friends, but they can only reach a certain point of friendship. You can't be "best friends." If you are best friends, you should probably be dating, and if you're not dating, one or the other is thinking about dating, which is, at the very least, going to cause complications in your friendship. In MY life (and this is MY blog, which tells about MY life) this has never been proven wrong.

The confusion all lies in the definition of "friend"

Was this a good use of my Sunday School time? That's debatable.

p.s.  Matt Hall - You are not aloud to comment on this blog post. We can discuss in person if you would like :)